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Love & happiness in 2020

 Have you ever watched a movie with a love story and thought that the relationships on them aren’t ever what they appear to be? In real life, love isn’t something that’s easy, or something that makes you so happy it still makes you crazy years after meeting someone. I thought love became a habit overtime, you just become used to each other and go through the motions of each day together.

 At the risk of sounding cheesy, I found that movie romance in real life. After 3 years and 3 months I still get butterflies when he texts me. I still watch for him out the window when he’s coming home from work. We still kiss goodnight and say I love you 150 times a day. I look forward to my time with him every single day and never get sick of it. I love the way he looks at me, the way he protects me, treats me and the way he loves me. 

I know people get sick of hearing it. A lot of people don’t know how to act around happy couples but I honestly don’t care what anyone thinks. I will go on and on for years about how happy I finally am because it’s nothing I’ve ever experienced. Because of this happiness, Jim and I didn’t want to wait any longer to get married. We had postponed the wedding because of Covid but wanted to make it official now. We’ve both waited our whole lives for each other and decided just a few weeks ago that we would get married now, with just the kids and our parents. It was a perfect day, the weather was gorgeous and unheard of for November in New England! The sun hit the water perfectly behind us and I had the best day becoming Mrs. Lockhead. I feel like the luckiest girl in the world for finding him and I look forward to many happy years.


2020 has been a tough year. The kids not being able to go to school, everything closing down, wearing masks everywhere etc. I’ve tried to make the best of it, and getting married definitely helped that! But there are still struggles that we deal with every day. My DBS stopped working and my symptoms in my hand and foot came back. Luckily, I got Botox and that helped a lot but I have to go back to Albany every 3 months to get it. We are still trying to figure out what’s wrong with it. I had an EEG and it showed the DBS is struggling when ramping up to get to the settings. I’m going to try new settings and if that doesn’t work I will need my battery replaced. Thankfully, that’s a pretty simple surgery. 

I’ve also been having a lot of problems with my hand and fingers. They are all hyper extending and a couple fingers lock when I try to bend them. This makes every day tasks very difficult. On December 11th I will be going in for yet another hand surgery. They will be taking a tendon from my toe to wrap around my fingers. I’m really hoping this is the last one. 


Remote learning has been tough, the kids only go to school two days a week right now. The thing that scares me the most is that they’re not learning much. I worry about them falling behind and struggling when school starts again. We have enjoyed many extra days together though and I’m very lucky that I work from home so I can help them through this. We’re doing the best we can! 


My point here is that 2020 has been a tough year but hard days are so much easier to deal with when you are happy with your life and when you have someone who is there to help you every day ❤️



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